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The Incredible Power of a Mother's Love

May 11, 2018

 

 

Abraham Lincoln once said, “All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”

 

Only God could possess the wisdom to create the role of mother, and her life-producing, life- preserving contribution to humankind.

Not a one of you reading this would even be here without a mother.

 

While we often focus on a mother's physical contributions (giving birth, feeding, changing diapers, etc.) her contributions to her child's emotional development are every bit as important.

 

As UCLA professor Allan Schore, Ph.D., writes, “The child's first relationship, the one with the mother, acts as a template, as it permanently molds the individual's capacities to enter into all later emotional relationships.” [1]

 

Research, old and new, continues to find that a child's relationship with her/his mother critically affects the physical and emotional health of that child.

 

 

Here are 4 amazing ways a mom's love influences the person her child will grow up to be:

 

 

Loving Moms:

 

I.  Produce children with Larger, Healthier Brains

 

Brain researchers recently conducted scans on 100 children’s brains.  [2]  They divided the children into two groups: children whose mothers were highly nurturing and supportive and children who reported their mothers as less nurturing and supportive. 

 

The findings made headlines.  Children with more nurturing and supportive mothers had larger and greater development in the hippocampus area of the brain, compared to children with non-nurturing mothers.

 

Why Is This Important?

 

The hippocampus area of the brain is where learning and memory are produced and controlled. 

 

This means kids with a more developed hippocampus are likely to do significantly better in school.  School success is related to career success, and career success is linked to greater life satisfaction.

 

The hippocampus is also a key contributor to stress management.  Stress management is essential to healthy coping.  Healthy coping is essential to doing well in school and in life.  Like a symphony conductor, the hippocampus directs the performance of a child’s learning, ability to remember information, and stress management.

 

Children with a more developed hippocampus are set to be more successful in life – thanks to loving mothers.

 

 

 

Loving Moms:

 

II.  Produce Children With a Lower Risk of Obesity

 

Researchers from Ohio State University found that preschool children with poor emotional bonds with their moms were twice as likely to be obese when they became teens, compared to preschoolers with good mother-child relationships at age two. [3]

 

Importance?

 

Being obese in the teen years makes life terribly difficult.  The teen years are about learning to socially fit in with other teens and develop more emotionally mature relationships.  Being obese can make this very difficult as other adolescents tend to be highly critical, judgmental and rejecting of teens who are obese.

 

Moms who actively show their love increase the chances their teen will maintain a healthier, more socially acceptable weight – which in turn leads to more socially satisfying relationships. 

 

 

 

Loving Moms:

 

III.  Produce Children That Are Healthier When They Reach Middle-Age

 

Stroke, heart disease and Type 2 Diabetes.  No one wants their grown child to have to deal with these serious and chronic health issues. 

 

In one study, researchers discovered that adults who grew up in poor, low-educated families were at significantly greater risk to develop metabolic syndrome compared to children who grew up in wealthier, more educated families. [4]

 

Metabolic syndrome is associated with leading chronic health conditions, including heart disease, Type 2 Diabetes, and stroke.   

 

BUT – there was ONE VERY CRITICAL DIFFERENCE MAKER!

 

Children who grew up in less educated, poor homes but had mothers who actively loved and nurtured them were largely PROTECTED FROM developing metabolic syndrome and the serious conditions that go with it.

 

A mother’s LOVE PROTECTED their children from these life-threatening health problems!

 

Is This Important?   It is beyond important!

 

 

 

[Lastly]

 

 

Loving Moms:

 

IV.  Produce Children Who Grow Up To Have Better Marriages and Adult Romantic Relationships

 

Mothers, want your kids to grow up and have happy, healthy marriages?   Then, actively show your love to your children while they are growing up!

 

Relationship researchers from the Univ. of Minnesota tracked a group of children from birth to age 21. [5] When they examined these young adul'ts romantic relationships at age 21 they made an important discovery. 

 

The young people who had mothers judged as less loving and nurturing when that young person was age two were more likely to be less committed to, and supportive of, their current romantic relationships.  They were considered the “weak link” of their romantic relationship. 

 

Of even greater concern, the romantic relationships with a lower committed, weak-link partner were also more likely to be relationships where the romantic partners engaged in acts of hostility.  A red flag in any relationship.

 

In contrast - the young people whose mothers had been loving and supportive when they were younger were more likely to be more committed and supportive partners themselves.  They were “strong-links” in their relationship.

 

It is believed this strength greatly increasing the odds their future relationships (e.g., marriage) will be happy and supportive.

 

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Christianly Speaking

 

None of this should be surprising from a Christian worldview. 

 

Christians are to be a people defined by love, because our Heavenly Father is love.  The Bible says:

 

"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.  Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.  In this the love of God was made known to us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him."  (1 John 1:7-9)

 

Mothers, like the rest of us, you have been created in the image of God.  Genesis 1:27 says,

 

"So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them."

 

And God is love.  Therefore, all mothers should reflect the love of God.

 

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The Bottom Line

 

Mothers, the evidence is overwhelming.  If you want your children to grow up to be healthy and happy, actively express your love to them daily

 

Nurture them daily.  Nurture means to be consistently loving, supportive, enthusiastic, and patient with your children.

 

Your power to mold lives through your love and devotion is truly incredible and important.

 

 

 

 

Before You Go

 

Know anyone that could benefit from this article?  

 

If so, Please share and respond so others might be helped!

 

 

Thank you,

--bill walker

 

 

References

 

[1]  Schore, A. (1994).  Affect Regulation and the Origin of the Self: The

                                 Neurobiology of Emotional Development 

 

[2]   https://www.medicaldaily.com/chilling-brain-scans-show-impact-mothers-love-childs-brain-size-243328

 

[3]  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4856567/

 

[4]  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3362047/

 

[5]  http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797611410573

 

 

 

 

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