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Stinking Thinking  (Pt. 2): Five MORE Irrational Beliefs We Believe That Make Us Miserable

December 4, 2017

 

What You Think Is What You Are! 

 

 

Learn 5 more ways that your thoughts make you miserable and better thoughts to replace them with.   

 

 

 

 

The thoughts we think can be classified into 2 types:  Rationale or Irrational.  Rational thoughts are based on objective reality (i.e., logic), while Irrational thoughts are based more on our emotions.  Logical thoughts are based on correct and reliable evidence.  The opposite is true of irrational thoughts.

 

There are 11 common irrational beliefs we tend to believe at times [1].  These beliefs are not true, and therefore cause us to operate on false assumptions.  In relationships, this means we are drawing conclusions about ourselves, family members or friends based on evidence that we are misinterpreting.

 

In Part I we discussed Irrational Beliefs/Thoughts #1-6.   In this article, we will discuss Irrational Beliefs #7-11.  

 

 

 

Irrational Belief #7:

 

It is easier to run away from my problems and responsibilities than it is to face them.

 

Running away from a problem never solves it.  The situation remains and eventually must be dealt with if it is to be resolved.

 

The Better Belief:  It is o.k. to not want to deal with a problem in my life.  But, I know my life  will never be the life I want by ignoring significant problems.  First, I will think through the problem and determine the best way to address it.  If needed, I will consult trusted family/friends in this process.  Then, I will deal with the problem in an intentional and respectful manner (respectful to myself and any others involved).  

 

 

 

Irrational Belief #:8

 

I need to be dependent on others and have someone stronger than me to lean on.

 

This is especially a problem when taken to the extreme.  Some people believe they can do close to nothing on their own and need other people to do everything for them.

 

 

The Better Belief:   

Being dependent on others can put and keep me in a position of weakness and helplessness.    This does not allow me to grow as a person.  I am a capable person.  My life will not fall apart if I don’t have someone to do everything for me.  When I do need to depend on others it will be because I choose to, not because I have to. 

 

 

 

Irrational Belief #9:

 

Past events in my life determine my present behavior and cannot be changed.

 

Your past determines your present and future ONLY if you allow it to.  It does not have to be this way and the statement is a false belief.  This false belief keeps far too many people from finding the happiness they deserve in life.

 

 

The Better Belief: 

What has happened in my past is real, and such, cannot be changed.  However, my past does not control my present and future behavior.  I have the ability to determine my present and future behavior without the influence of the past.  I can also choose to seek help, if needed, in doing so.

 

 

 

 

Irrational Belief #10:

 

I should be very concerned and upset by other people’s problems.

 

The problem with this thinking is it results in us being controlled by the behavior of others.  While it is understandable that we are at times concerned and upset by others actions, a line must be drawn.  If you find yourself upset constantly by the actions of others you have surrendered the quality of your life (contentment/happiness, etc.) to others.

 

 

The Better Belief: 

 

If dealing with another person’s problems places an overwhelming burden on me, I only compound the problem and therefore am less able to help the person whose problem it actually is.  I cannot control another person’s behavior, only my own.

 

 

 

 

Irrational Belief #11:

 

 

There is always a concise and correct answer to every problem and it is horrible if it is not found.

 

Searching for the perfect solution is a frustrating and useless activity.  Believing there must be a single correct solution to a human situation results in continuing dissatisfaction, since the ‘perfect answer’ does not exist.

 

The Better Belief: 

I will always try to find what I believe to be the best solution to a problem.  But, I will remind myself that ‘best’ does not mean ‘perfect’.  There are usually several acceptable solutions to a problem.  If one solution does not work I will not see it as terrible.  It just happened to not work and now I will try another solution.

 

 

 

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Christianly Speaking

 

In Pt. I we quoted John MacArthur:

 “You, as a believer, are a product of your thinking because it says in the Bible as clearly as possible, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”  You are the product of your thoughts.”  [2] 

 

This is a strong reality:  You are the product of your thoughts.

This is why it is so important for us as Christians to keep our thinking godly and based on Biblical principles.

 

Romans 12:2 tells us, “Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (KJV).  The ERV paraphrases it this way: 

 

Don’t change yourselves to be like the people of this world, but let God change you inside with a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to understand and accept what God wants for you. You will be able to know what is good and pleasing to him and what is perfect.

 

 

The more we fill our minds up with God’s word the more He will change our thinking for the better.

 

Note:  Re Belief #11:  The Bible often does give us a single, correct answer to many problems (e.g., is adultery wrong, etc.) and should be respected as the one correct source of right and wrong.

 

 

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Remember:

 

Rational, clean thinking will make us rational, clean people. 

 

Irrational thinking pollutes our minds and keeps us being the positive, helpful individuals our families, and the world, needs us to be.

 

 

 

 

 

References

 

[1]  http://www.rebtnetwork.org/library/ideas.html

 

 

[2]  https://www.gty.org/library/sermons-library/50-41/spiritual-stability-part-5-godly-thinking

 

[3]  Holy Bible:  Romans 12:2

 

 

 

 

 

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